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| Consider well... |
Just joking. What I really think is that these are seven common sayings that could use a bit more consideration.
It can be observed that, sometimes, these statements are not true. In the great and wonderful created world we live in, someone set up some rules. They are always true. According to this logic, if something is true in part, it will be true as a whole. If it is false in part, it is probably false as a whole.
Most of these statements are not rules, they are assumptions made regularly with less consideration than warranted. Rather than ranting on my soapbox and incurring wrath for my overly dramatic treatments, I have a question to follow each. Just consider them a bit. Maybe they aren’t that obvious.
1. You should just be happy you have a job.
Would anyone be satisfied with the implied attitude if it was held by your child’s teacher? They don’t really like their job, but it has great benefits an easy schedule and it’s nearly impossible to get fired. How about your brain surgeon? Therapist?
2. Don’t get married too young.
Doesn’t this imply that marriage is easier if you get married when you are older? Has anyone found a couple with any kind of marriage, started at any age who claims it is easy?
3. Don’t wait to go to college.
Is education more valuable to those with life experience or to those without?
4. If you are paying rent, you should buy a house. It’s a great investment.
We fight and die for freedom – who has the most, those with or those without a mortgage and property to maintain?
5. If you are worth X dollars per hour (there is a formula) and you can pay someone less than that to mow your lawn, change your oil, cook your food, or whatever else, you should not do it yourself. Instead, you should spend your time making money.
Does the connection one has to the simple efforts of maintaining their life contribute to the health of the heart or is time truly valued by money alone?
6. As soon as I get financially secure, I’m going to do what I love.
Is financial security measured in quantity of money, likelihood of keeping it or lack of need? Is it actually achievable? Is doing what you love worth putting on hold for “financial security?”
7. Get the best (cheapest) deal you can.
How is the best deal measured – quality of product/service, investment in relationship, working with people you trust, supporting your local economy, or cheapest price, no matter what?
Fair questions?
#1 Sometimes true, sometimes not.
ReplyDelete#2 While there are plenty of exceptions, I think this is valid. So many young marriages fail. Growing up is tough enough by itself. Some are mature earlier than others.
#3 is BS, period. There are millions of degreed folks doing menial labor (see #1). If a person really knows what they want, then by all means go for it. An education for its own sake comes with crushing debt, impossible to ever pay off at $10 an hour.
#4 Sometimes true, sometimes not. It is not so simple as this.
#5 BS again. Life is too precious to let others live it for you; all the other stuff is what keeps life interesting (and if you pay others to do your life work, you become a workaholic at your work (to pay for others), which ruins life.
#6 Nope. Life is not a destination, it is the journey. Plus the destination will always be a moving target if we grow and learn (and we had better).
#7 No. If everyone does not win, then everyone looses, eventually if not sooner.